Questions!?! Questions!?! Questions!?!...

How do you keep a foster child and then let it go?

Sandy's answer-
First of all these are not my children and that is what we foster parents have to keep in mind. I have had kids, that I have had for many months at a time ,and I had to give them back.
You do get very attached . It is very hard letting go of some of these kids ,because you have bonded. Usually, older kids are easier to let go, because they want to go home to their parents, and you are happy when they can.
Usually, it's the little babies that are hard to let go, but you just have to do it. Someone asked me at walmart the other day about letting go and I told her it felt similar to a death in the family. You do feel very sad when they leave you ,because their space is empty, and yes it hurts your heart. You worry and you wonder what if the family goes back instead of forward...what if they can't take care of them like they should...at times like that all you can do is pray and leave it in God's hands.
I can honestly say it is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
You just need to keep in mind (when the time comes) that you've done your job, you've reunited a family, and another special child is just around the corner and will need a foster family very soon too.
Also, it is very sweet when you can see a troubled family turn their lives around ,and know that you played a part in that process. It makes you feel good because you've made a difference.